Moving on…

Most social media accounts tend to be a highly edited view into someone’s life, showing all the highlights but rarely the lows.  I want this blog to be a perfectly honest account of my life so I know this post is necessary.  I couldn’t write about it right away because I didn’t want to publish anything that I might later regret.  Anyways, after dating for over six years I broke up with my boyfriend when I found out he cheated on me.

When I found out, I was obviously VERY angry.  To betray someone’s trust like that is just inexcusable.  But aside from the anger, I am actually very excited about what the future has in store for me!  It was like the world opened up to me.  Since we graduated college and were both living at home, I could tell we were growing apart.  I think we realized we have different goals and values and that is what started pushing us apart.  That’s not an excuse for why he did it but I think it’s why I have been able to handle it so well.  I would like to take this time to thank my family and friends for being the most loving and supportive people in the entire world, especially Teresa (the sister running the half marathon with me).

Now that I have had some time to adjust, I’m ready to move on… quite literally.  I’ve been living at home with my parents since I graduated, wanting to move out but thinking I would wait to move out with him.  Now that I have no strings attached I have decided I am going to move to Austin, TX.  From what I have heard, it is an awesome place to live.  My brother has been living there for a year and has told me how much I will love it.  An active, outdoorsy city with no blizzards or polar vortexes.  What more could I ask for?  I’m going to visit at least once and wait until I have a job before I make the official move but I don’t think the Northeast has much more to offer me at this point in time.

So, how has the running been going?

Well, the week before this happened was fantastic!  I stopped at the running store to see what they had to say about nutrition.  I did my long run that Sunday using Gu for the first time and had a really great run (minus the torrential downpour in the middle).

The week after that I didn’t run at all.  I am apparently the opposite of an emotional eater and found it pretty difficult to run while not eating so much.  The next week, I started to get back in a little bit with two shorter runs.

This past week was much better.  I went for 3 decent runs during the week.  On Saturday, I want for a hike and LONG walk with a friend from high school that I hadn’t talked to in years but reached out when she heard about my breakup.  It has been so good catching up with her and I can tell we are definitely going to friends again from here on out!  I tried to get back into the long runs this Sunday but the weirdest thing happened and I don’t know why.  As I started running, my upper legs got so itchy I couldn’t even stand it.  I tried to tell myself it was mind over matter and push through.  After a mile with clenched fists and visible scratches on my legs, I knew I had to turn around and get a Benadryl at home.  Once the benadryl kicked in, the itching stopped.  I was mentally ready to try the run again but it felt like my body was filled with lead so I just napped in front of the TV for the rest of the day.

Thankfully, I went into training knowing that the training plan is really just the ideal plan.  Life gets in the way and you have to adjust.  I’m going to have to put in some serious work in the next few weeks and I’m a little nervous for the half marathon.  In the end though,  I’m doing it for fun and to be able to say I could.  If I can’t run the whole thing this time, who cares?  I can always train for another one!

Bonus:  I got a new phone finally so I can track my runs again and listen to music!!!!

The Best Relationship Article I Have Ever Read

As I typed that title, I realized I tend to hyperbolize.  Either that or I just think everything is fantastic!  Anyway, I usually hate articles about relationships.  They usually try to tell you what a good relationship looks like or if you found your soulmate and just leave you feeling worse about your own relationship because you can’t check off everything they list.

I found an article on the Move, Nourish, Believe blog from Lorna Jane that completely blew me away.  The post is called “10 Things You Can Do To Nourish Your Relationship.”  I think what sets it apart right away is that it is it talks about nourishing a relationship.  The suggestions are easy steps to encourage a healthy relationship.

Here is why I like each of the 10 points listed:

1. Stop pretending someone you’re not and just be yourself instead.  Sometimes in a long relationship, you tend to do things because that is what you have always done.  It might be hard to break into new things because that isn’t what you did when you started the relationship.  You don’t have to be stuck in that.  Just do what makes you happy!

2. Smile at your loved one. When I have something to complain about, my boyfriend is usually the first person to hear about it.  I need to stop doing that so much.  I need to remember that he makes me happy and just smile at him! 🙂

3. Realize things change. Your interests change.  Your jobs change.  Your goals change.  As long as you realize that, you can keep an open mind, accept it, and work it into your life.

4. Work out together.  It’s a little intimidating to work out with my boyfriend because he has been athletic his entire life, probably even before he was born.  But he was the one I went to when I wanted someone to run my first 5k with me.  I don’t like running with him so much but I like that we can be active together.

5. If you want quality time with your significant other, plan it.  I sometimes get annoyed when we get in a bit of a rut of just watching tv together in the week or not really spending any other quality time together.  No matter how far along you are in a relationship, you still need to plan to do stuff.  It doesn’t just happen by itself.  Someone should remind me of this on a weekly basis.

6. Express your needs.  Apparently you don’t miraculously become mindreaders, even if you have been together for almost forever.  Someone should remind me of this one too.

7. Give without any expectations. Do things for the other person without keeping track and expecting things in return.

8. Don’t stop caring about how you look. I’ve done this before, where I just wear sweats when my boyfriend comes over.  It kinda gives the impression that you don’t really care anymore. Now I like to show off my fancy muscles from running so this isn’t so much of a problem.

9. Cultivate intimacy and independence. I think one of the best things for my relationship is when we went to different colleges.  It let us make our own groups of friends and do the activities we really wanted to do. Having our own things going on keeps it more exciting.  Like we actually have things to talk about when we go out to dinner.

10. Inspire your partner by loving yourself fiercely. The more you love yourself, the more confident you are.  Jealousy isn’t a problem and you don’t seek out approval.  Perfect for a healthy relationship.

 

What’s the best piece of relationship advice you ever got?  The worst?